The Psychology of Anger

 

When anger is reflexively triggered in the brain-body system, an individual is "put" into an intense state of mind. There is an urge to respond to the situation by utilizing the intensity of anger. The mind is encouraged by reflex to view others as "the enemy" and to teach them not "to mess with you". There is a sense that if one doesn't "stand up for themselves", then they will appear weak and allow others to "walk all over you".

 

 

To enact Psychological Health, one must ALWAYS utilize impulse control to not be fooled by the intense urge to fight when angry (physically, verbally, "shut down", etc.). Training to not behaviorally enact anger, while developing a peaceful and effective strategy to manage the internal sensations and thoughts involved is the discipline involved in the healthy management of anger.

 

While in a state of anger, individuals must learn to peacefully wait for full access to their thinking abilities to return before determining an accurate understanding of the situation and before determining an effective behavioral  response.

 

One must require of oneself the use of rational thinking to understand situations clearly (as opposed to viewing things “through the lens” of anger) and be able to determine and enact behavioral responses that could rationally be determined to be effective, loving and peaceful so that one is not overwhelmed by the intensity of the emotion and by the unrelenting urge for revenge.

 

The training involved to peacefully navigate anger is extremely challenging, requiring  one to develop a new and healthier approach and to break bad habits.